Ask yourself these 5 very important question. before you make the call to your sports team office and tell them you are interested in Billeting.. The decision to Billet should not be taken lightly and these questions and the answers are very important in the process to becoming a Billet. If you answer YES to all of them then you are ready to begin your journey of Billeting. If you answer NO to any one or two of these questions you may want to re-consider.
1. Will I Have Time To Billet?
This I believe is the most important question to ask yourself. Billeting is very time consuming and scheduling conflicts can be an issue. Most will have very hectic schedules. Take into consideration their school schedule, their practices, their games and their days off. Ask yourself does it fit into my work schedule, can I work around it and will I be home in time to get a meal on the table? Working around another persons schedule can be very trying. Many of us know what that is like just by working around our family schedule, now add another person to that.
To keep things organized in our house I keep a calendar on the wall and write everything on it. Included on my calendar are my Billet son’s schedule (practices and games), appointments, our work schedules and payments due (name only, no amount). There isn’t a day that goes by that this calendar isn’t looked at, especially by our billet son.
You need to have time to go to your Billet Son’s games. He needs your support. Some have parents who live too far away to attend. While others, believe it or not, have parents who are too busy and/or just plain don’t care.
2. As A Billet Am I Willing To Set Out Rules and Abide By Them?
Set out your rules right at the very beginning and stick to them. If you don’t want girls in the house let your Billet Son know. Perhaps you want the dirty dishes put in the sink or you want your Billet Son to bring his dirty laundry to the laundry room. Whatever rules you set make sure you enforce them and stick to them. Remember it is your home and you have every right to make rules. The team will have rules so why shouldn’t you?
This excellent article, covering all subjects, shows how one team sets out its rules and expectations for their players and host families.
3. Am I prepared To Cook Nourishing Meals Every Day?
There are two kinds of Billet Sons that are difficult to cook for. The picky eater and the Billet with allergies. However, they still have to be fed. I had a Billet son who was a very picky eater. It drove me crazy trying to figure out what to feed him.
Food allergies can make it tough on a Billet Mom. It is hard enough trying to come up with different meals to make every day let alone having to cook two separate meals. Some allergies are so severe that you can’t let anything touch the food or utensils. This can be very stressful and shopping for someone with allergy’s can be a nightmare.
4. Will I Be Able To Deal With Their Decisions?
At times these billet kids have minds of their own and just want to do their own thing. I have had players call and ask if they could live at our home. I have also had players that decided, for whatever reason to move out. I remember on one occasion finding out two days before training camp that our player wasn’t coming back to our home. He wanted to move into another Billet house with a buddy of his. I was heartbroken but unfortunately for him his teammate was traded soon after he moved in.
Not only may your Billet Son have a mind of his own but the team and/or coaches make decisions that you might not always agree with but will have to go along with. There could be a last minute schedule or practice time change. These types of decisions can be frustrating especially if you have a meal ready. The coaches could make a decision not to play your Billet son for no apparent reason. However, you must be willing to compromise and respect these decisions.
5. Would I Be Upset If Billeting Didn’t Work Out?
With so many different personalities not every Billet Son or Daughter will be a good match for you. With Billeting you will find out that sometimes it just doesn’t work out. Don’t be afraid to let the team know you are having problems.
Arguing and fighting within the Billet house can be very stressful and not good for either party.
We have experienced with Billeting that there are times when it doesn’t matter what you do or say, you just can’t make it work.
Trying to hang onto something that isn’t working very rarely will.
You have to like the sport you are billeting for. If you don’t you will have little in common with your Billet Child and you could have problems relating to them.
If you are willing to open your home to a total stranger and make some adjustments in your life style then give it a try. Billeting can be rewarding experience but doesn’t come without its times of frustration and concern.