An Addition To The Family
There are so many things to do and remember for your new family members arrival. This person is an addition to your family and you need to make them welcome and feel comfortable in your home. Become a great host and treat them as you would a guest in your home. This interesting article gives some suggestions on things you can do for your houseguests.
First it is important that you take time and get to know them and their parents. They will all become a part of your family and your life. Show him to his room and take them on a tour of the house. Point out things as you go. For example: what bathroom they are to use, where the towels are kept, where the laundry room is.
During your conversation you can let them know good places to eat, local hotels that are close to the arena (in case the family needs a place to stay overnight), theatres, grocery stores etc. This is a good time to mention any points of interest within your city you think they might enjoy.
Continue the conversation by filling them in on important information about yourself and your household. Now it is time to let them know your expectations. After your tour sit down with them and go over the rules of the house. It is best to do this in front of his parents, this way you are all on the same page.
Set Out Your Rules
This is the most important of all and every Billet House needs RULES. Set out your RULES and expectations at the very beginning. Every Billet House has different rules but here is our checklist of rules that we discuss with each and every Billet player upon arrival.
- GIRLS – If you don’t want them in the house let him know. Our rule has been very strict on this. Girls had to be gone a half hour before curfew and absolutely no girls in their bedroom. The doors always had to be open and they weren’t to be in the house if we weren’t home. No girls allowed to visit the night before a game or on game day.
- DRINKING – Again, set out your expectations on this subject and stick with it. As new billets we didn’t allow any drinking until we found out that one of our Billet Sons was drinking in his room, afraid to drink in front of us.
- MEALS – Make sure they text you if they aren’t going to be home for a meal at least two hours in advance. Nothing is worse then planning a big meal and having no one show up to eat it.
- LAUNDRY – In our Billet house if he has laundry that needs done he must put it in the laundry basket supplied and bring it to the laundry room. Also, after the laundry is done I put it folded, back in the basket and my Billet Son has to take it to his room.
- GARBAGE – We ask that the garbage be brought out of their rooms weekly and put in the garbage container in the garage. Supply them with garbage bags or if you have a sorting system make sure they know how to sort it and where it goes.
- CELL PHONE – We don’t allow Cell Phones at the table. They can surely go the time it takes to eat without texting or checking for messages. I had one player who would sneak his phone and text under the table. Of course he was caught and asked to refrain from receiving or sending texts at the dinner table.
- CHORES – We didn’t ask our Billet Son to do a lot as they have very busy schedules with school, public relations appearances, practices and games. We did ask him to place his dirty dishes in the kitchen sink. At times we did ask him to help shovel the snow.
The Billet’s Checklist
Now the tour is over it is time to write down some information. This is a very important checklist and every Billet should do this. It also helps you to get to know your player as soon as they arrive. So grab a piece of paper and get the following information:
- CELL PHONE #. Put this number right into your phone along with their EMAIL ADDRESS, HOME PHONE # and their PARENTS CONTACT INFORMATION .
- ALLERGY LIST – Make sure you know what allergies they have. There are many different types of allergies including food allergies. Find out if they use an epipen for their allergies. Most teams will let you know if you are getting a player with allergies and what they are.
- MEDICATIONS – You need the names of their medications and what they are taking them for. Ask them to give you a list of their drugs from the pharmacy. You might not think you need this but we had a situation with a player once who we had to take to emergency and they needed to know this information. Keep it in your wallet or purse as it won’t do you much good pinned to the refrigerator if you have to rush them off to the hospital.
- PARKING – some cities do not allow overnight parking on the street
- HOUSE KEY – Give them a key and make sure they attach it to a good key chain so they won’t lose it.
- ALARM SYSTEM – how to turn it on and off and the password for it. With most alarm systems now you can assign your Billet Son his own password.
- PASSWORD FOR INTERNET – Most will connect their phone to the internet and of course their computer. Have them connect to it right away so they won’t have to worry about getting the password. In case they need it though you can put it on the refrigerator where it is easy to find.
- PET – You need to tell them everything about your pet.
After getting all the above information let him get settled into his room. You can offer to help but most will not accept. The parents usually like to get their son settled on their own. After the parents leave spend some time with your Billet Son. Getting to know him and getting the rest of the information you need. Don’t be too chatty though as he will be tired and just want to chill in his room. After all coming to a new city, meeting a new coach and teammates and meeting you can prove to be a very exhausting day for a young boy.
MEALS – You need to find out his likes and dislikes and what he prefers for a pregame meal. I go through this with my Billet Son. I had a Mother tell me once that her son ate everything but it turned out he didn’t like most dishes I prepared. He always made an excuse for not eating usually telling me he wasn’t hungry. I found this hard to believe especially since he had just come from the rink and a hard practise. I found out that his Mother was sending him frozen meals and after he left the dinner table he was going to his room and heating them up in the microwave. Here is my checklist for meals:
Breakfast What do they like? Bagels, Cereal, Eggs (how do they like them cooked?), Muffins, Pancakes, Toast, Waffles? There are lots of choices for breakfast so find out what they want to eat each morning.
Beverages What do they prefer to drink at meals? What do they like to drink between meals Most just want water but some like fruit juice, sports drinks or even tomato juice. We had one player who liked a cup of coffee with his meal and another who preferred a cup of tea with honey.
Soup, Sandwich & Salad All of these are great for lunches but make sure you know what type of soup they like. Some do not like cream soups at all while others prefer them. What types of filling for sandwiches do they like? What is their favourite salad? We had one player who would only eat Caesar Salad.
Fruit and Vegetables Find out what their favourites are and what they don’t like at all. How do they like to eat potatoes. We had one player who would only eat mashed potatoes and one player who wouldn’t eat potatoes at all. No sense in preparing and serving food they won’t eat. Anything they don’t like have on a night they are playing out of town.
Meats There are many different meats and many different ways to prepare them. Ask him what is favourite meats are and how he likes them cooked.
Other Dishes – Do they like pasta? If so, what do they prefer. Have them name some other foods they like to eat like a favourite casserole or dish.
Ask them if they like spicy food or not especially if you are used to spicing your food up and like a lot of heat.
If you want to simplify this process just ask these four simple questions.
- What are your favourite foods?
- What is your favourite meal?
- What do you like for a pre-game meal?
- What don’t you like to eat?
Although this seems like a tedious task it is well worth it to take the time and find out your Billet Son’s likes and dislikes. It will save you a lot of headaches down the road.
After you have talked to your Billet player and written down this important information you should put the list on the refrigerator. It is surprising how many times you will forget what they told you they liked and didn’t like.
Congratulations, you are now part of the Billeting Family and are officially a Billet Mom and Dad with a Billet Son or Daughter living in your Billet Home.